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eb1209
21115 posts
12/30/2017 7:13 am
Sorry, Not Yet....:(


And I thought I was ready.....I was wrong! He is lovable, and I like him as a friend, but I do not feel strong about having or starting a relationship with him..I need more time to get to know him. I have seen his good sides, and he really has the tendency to spoil me, but I have seen how he can get frustrated as well. I think he knew that I am not really into him..He felt it. I am not ready for any commitment in a relationship..19 long years of no man in my life, and I cannot imagine myself readjusting again to a very stressful condition where expectations, limitations, and possible control or loss of freedom can happen...But, I am still working on it...I am not done yet...Just not the right time...or maybe not the right person...


Just call me ELZ


eb1209
28210 posts
12/30/2017 7:18 am

I don't know what to say...I hope he still wants to be my friend...He is a very good friend, and I really like him as that...

Just call me ELZ


eb1209
28210 posts
12/30/2017 3:12 pm

Not sure what went wrong with this post..It is not showing on the main page.

Just call me ELZ


fantasiamore 67F
10986 posts
12/31/2017 9:59 am

in due time and at the right time...getting into a relationship when one feels the joy and freedom of being single is like someone usurping and trespassing an unknown region...i can relate to that..

“I hold it true, whatever befall; I it, when I sorrow most.


eb1209
28210 posts
1/1/2018 8:34 am

    Quoting fantasiamore:
    in due time and at the right time...getting into a relationship when one feels the joy and freedom of being single is like someone usurping and trespassing an unknown region...i can relate to that..
I had all the chances to take the plunge, Jane...But I chose not to..

Just call me ELZ


fantasiamore 67F
10986 posts
1/1/2018 5:35 pm

    Quoting eb1209:
    I had all the chances to take the plunge, Jane...But I chose not to..
there's no extra push to make you take the risk...that's the message am receiving...

“I hold it true, whatever befall; I it, when I sorrow most.


elizabethvivian2 44F
603 posts
1/3/2018 2:05 am

I think that to be fulfilled in a relationship, you have to be fulfilled in yourself... and to simply know that you are is enough to challenge all fears. I believe the best relationships are those that make the best of friendships. Stress only comes when we set our expectations and anticipate disappoints. But in friendship, neither do we expect nor anticipate.

I have learned in life that no one else can make me happy but myself. That to expect perfection from others is a folly pursuit knowing I can never be perfect myself. That the precursor to "love" is "like". Sometimes the only way to know is to take that big leap into the unknown. And although I have always been happy just being by myself, it has always been happier in that place where I could share that happiness with someone else.


flower_boy2014 34M
13 posts
1/5/2018 12:33 pm

Try looking for "COMPANIONSHIP" more than a relationship. Then maybe the many barriers you have will just disappear.


mercy2005 59F
994 posts
1/8/2018 7:42 am

Ok not yet


Bizzysback 57F
973 posts
1/9/2018 3:14 am

A relationship is like a tree that start from a seed or a pit. The slightest feeling or attraction I believe is the seed, if landed good ground , with just enough attention then it will grow. The good ground I'd say is your chemistry. Give it some attention and let it grow. Sure this tree will encounter perplexity and mishaps as it grows but maybe give it a chance. Once it has grown into a full blown tree it will be stronger to stand calamities and you will enjoy its fruits.

“Use the quotation for the occasion; do not make an occasion for the quotation.”


theta2011 47F
1898 posts
1/15/2018 4:54 am

so, this is how a budding love story ended. Really ELZ relate ako dyan..I've enjoyed my singleness I dont know how to begin to love again or well, being in a state of that feeling again. Perhaps, freedom defines it. Cheers to us - alone but not lonely..


eb1209
28210 posts
1/15/2018 9:43 am

    Quoting fantasiamore:
    there's no extra push to make you take the risk...that's the message am receiving...
I would say, both, Jane...He also gave up thinking, he is already a loser!

Just call me ELZ


eb1209
28210 posts
1/15/2018 9:44 am

    Quoting elizabethvivian2:
    I think that to be fulfilled in a relationship, you have to be fulfilled in yourself... and to simply know that you are is enough to challenge all fears. I believe the best relationships are those that make the best of friendships. Stress only comes when we set our expectations and anticipate disappoints. But in friendship, neither do we expect nor anticipate.

    I have learned in life that no one else can make me happy but myself. That to expect perfection from others is a folly pursuit knowing I can never be perfect myself. That the precursor to "love" is "like". Sometimes the only way to know is to take that big leap into the unknown. And although I have always been happy just being by myself, it has always been happier in that place where I could share that happiness with someone else.
Which brings back to square one....questioning the effects of LDR vs. SDR

Just call me ELZ


eb1209
28210 posts
1/15/2018 9:46 am

    Quoting flower_boy2014:
    Try looking for "COMPANIONSHIP" more than a relationship. Then maybe the many barriers you have will just disappear.
I thank you for visiting my blog...But, I guess, it is easier for me to say I want companionship, but the other person is still agile to be more 'physically and sensually' engaged....

Just call me ELZ


eb1209
28210 posts
1/15/2018 9:46 am

Yes, Celia...as in...NOT YET...

Just call me ELZ


eb1209
28210 posts
1/15/2018 9:48 am

    Quoting Bizzysback:
    A relationship is like a tree that start from a seed or a pit. The slightest feeling or attraction I believe is the seed, if landed good ground , with just enough attention then it will grow. The good ground I'd say is your chemistry. Give it some attention and let it grow. Sure this tree will encounter perplexity and mishaps as it grows but maybe give it a chance. Once it has grown into a full blown tree it will be stronger to stand calamities and you will enjoy its fruits.
Che', I am beginning to think that he is a "quitter"... and I am too conservative, and picky

Just call me ELZ


eb1209
28210 posts
1/15/2018 9:49 am

    Quoting theta2011:
    so, this is how a budding love story ended. Really ELZ relate ako dyan..I've enjoyed my singleness I dont know how to begin to love again or well, being in a state of that feeling again. Perhaps, freedom defines it. Cheers to us - alone but not lonely..
Thet, thank you! You made me feel better...and thanks for the visit as well

Just call me ELZ


Yanie33w 36F
4 posts
1/18/2018 9:52 pm

When the right person comes along, you'll be glad you gave yourself the time to feel ready.

The transition from singledom to a new relationship can be a little rocky, but it doesn't have to be. Take the opportunity to start preparing yourself for what's to come: When you finally meet your love, you'll be even more excited to jump right in ...

I wish you just the very best of everything ate Elsa! You deserve to be HAPPY ...

In the meantime enjoy life to the fullest ... Xoxoxo ... Luv u


eb1209
28210 posts
1/20/2018 9:08 am

Thanks kiddie Sis, you know I love you too

Just call me ELZ