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Bizzysback

12/15/2017 3:35 am
How to break up with someone?


I met a guy on line and have met him in person briefly, in Philippines. He was a nice person but not really my type and I don't think we are a good match. Apparently he is my boyfriend when all along I thought I was just being nice and polite to him. He asked me before if it is possible for me to love someone like him. My reply was , "why not, when I can even love stray dogs". I never said I loved him but it seems that , that was his interpretation, which I realize as the days went by. I have tried to distance myself from him and tried to break up with him but was unsuccessful.

I am never used to breaking up with someone without a really valid reason. I am worried about hurting his feelings and sending him to the damps. Now what should I do when I do not really love the guy? I did not mean to hurt or play with his feelings but he misinterpreted my words, or did he? I kinda went along with him, chatting and talking about his dreams and me giving many suggestions. Now he seem so deeply involved with me making plans and talking about marriage. I'm stuck, I don't have the gut to hurt his feelings but I don't really see myself as his wife.

I am hoping for 2 things either I learn to love him or him find someone else and leave me. I just want him as a friend and maybe I just feel sorry for him. I don't really love him. I want to fall in love again. That head over heels feeling but I am sure that's not him. Oh boy. what should I do? How do I break up with an accidental relationship?




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Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/15/2017 3:36 am

I need serious comments.

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ccdomonic
155 posts 

12/15/2017 6:07 am

bizzy just print out this blog and give it to him
or sit him down and read it to him
its time now to not worry about his feeling but to take the the strong hand and just do it
it will only get worse for you and him the longer it goes on
cc

elizabethvivian2
601 posts 

12/15/2017 6:48 am

    Quoting ccdomonic:
    bizzy just print out this blog and give it to him
    or sit him down and read it to him
    its time now to not worry about his feeling but to take the the strong hand and just do it
    it will only get worse for you and him the longer it goes on
    cc
hahahaha.. brilliant idea cc! I might as well save this blog for my next failed relationship.. lol. The "print out" idea was hilarious!

elizabethvivian2
601 posts 

12/15/2017 6:50 am

.. another one of Bizzy's rejected boys.. beware, she's a heart breaker.. lol

amorlane21
31 posts 

12/15/2017 3:00 pm

since you are asking for a serious comments I would like to be totally blunt....theres no terms such as accidental relationship it takes to two tango. What do you expect when you continue with the relationship when the feelings you have is not the same he expects?

amorlane21
31 posts 

12/15/2017 3:07 pm

make your own decision sis Bizzy its either you continue or quit

RutJal
431 posts 

12/16/2017 12:03 am

Totally agree with ccdomonic. Though he may sounded humorous, Take it seriously. Face the situation head on and tell him where you strand... then say your goodbye "Tenderly".

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Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/16/2017 1:37 am

    Quoting elizabethvivian2:
    .. another one of Bizzy's rejected boys.. beware, she's a heart breaker.. lol
hey people might believe you.

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Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/16/2017 1:39 am

    Quoting ccdomonic:
    bizzy just print out this blog and give it to him
    or sit him down and read it to him
    its time now to not worry about his feeling but to take the the strong hand and just do it
    it will only get worse for you and him the longer it goes on
    cc
Just thinking about doing it makes me feel weak. Is it possible for me to fall deeply in love instead and have a happy ending?

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Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/16/2017 1:40 am

    Quoting amorlane21:
    make your own decision sis Bizzy its either you continue or quit
That is my dilemma, to continue and let it grow or to quit.

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Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/16/2017 1:46 am

    Quoting RutJal:
    Totally agree with ccdomonic. Though he may sounded humorous, Take it seriously. Face the situation head on and tell him where you strand... then say your goodbye "Tenderly".
Saying goodbye and leaving a hurt feeling are my weaknesses. I'd rather that he breaks up with me or that I fall deeply for him. He is such a nice guy, I hate to break his heart.

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ccdomonic
155 posts 

12/16/2017 4:03 am

better to hurt him a bit now than a lot more later
just bite the bullet and DO IT
cc

ccdomonic
155 posts 

12/16/2017 4:05 am

if you're going to fall in love you would have done so by now for his sake as well as yours DO IT

Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/16/2017 5:10 am

    Quoting ccdomonic:
    if you're going to fall in love you would have done so by now for his sake as well as yours DO IT
I guess you are right. Huhuhu why do I feel hurt?

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Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/16/2017 5:43 pm

    Quoting ccdomonic:
    better to hurt him a bit now than a lot more later
    just bite the bullet and DO IT
    cc
Ok it's done. But why am I so sad about it? I know it's temporary but still sad.

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ccdomonic
155 posts 

12/17/2017 4:21 am

well its maybe that you are sad over what might have been?? hugs

Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/17/2017 7:43 am

    Quoting ccdomonic:
    well its maybe that you are sad over what might have been?? hugs
Yes that's exactly it. Thanks.

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fantasiamore
10852 posts 

12/17/2017 4:16 pm

it is difficult to break someone's heart but more difficult to feign that there is love or that eventually you will fall in love with the person..tbough they say it is better for someone to love you than you loving that someone, to have that real and good relationship..i was in that situation recently..he is someone easy to love, sweet, thoughtful, caring and a this gentleman..but there is simply no spark to speak of and ignite that happy relationship..nah i have not turned callous..i am still much in search of someone who will be with me through the years..he asked why i cannot accept his proposal of love...i replied am loving you only as a friend and please nothing more beyond to offer you..hurt as he could be, but i must tell him the truth...

“I hold it true, whatever befall; I it, when I sorrow most.

RutJal
431 posts 

12/17/2017 8:00 pm

"Better by far you should forget and smile than you should remember and cry.">>> Christina Rossetti

Welcome to MyWorld!

Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/18/2017 12:26 am

    Quoting fantasiamore:
    it is difficult to break someone's heart but more difficult to feign that there is love or that eventually you will fall in love with the person..tbough they say it is better for someone to love you than you loving that someone, to have that real and good relationship..i was in that situation recently..he is someone easy to love, sweet, thoughtful, caring and a this gentleman..but there is simply no spark to speak of and ignite that happy relationship..nah i have not turned callous..i am still much in search of someone who will be with me through the years..he asked why i cannot accept his proposal of love...i replied am loving you only as a friend and please nothing more beyond to offer you..hurt as he could be, but i must tell him the truth...
Thanks for sharing your story ta Jane. I know exactly what you meant and I gave myself and him the chance but nothing the longer it goes I can sense that he is falling deeply but I am definitely not so it was better to cut it short.

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Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/18/2017 12:27 am

    Quoting RutJal:
    "Better by far you should forget and smile than you should remember and cry.">>> Christina Rossetti
Yes I am smiling.

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Baluga10
5 posts 

12/18/2017 9:54 pm

Mum to her daughter: "Baby open your mouth?
Baby to her Mum : " Yes ,Mama".
Mum to her daughter: " Baby,Telling lies?
Baby to her Mum : " No.Mama"
and the mother hugs the baby so tightly.

Another version :

Mum to her daughter : " Baby open your mouth?"
Baby to her Mum : " Yes Mama"
Mum to her daughter : " Baby telling lies?"
Baby to her Mum : " Yes Mama"
and the mother berates her baby..

It is useful sometimes to tell lies ,but ,generally ,it is harmful.
and, also, it is harmful sometimes to tell the truth but generally it is useful.

Now your premise lies in .Boyfriends and girlfriends telling the truths to each other,therefore,they both love each other.in your case you contradict the conclusion ,lol,lol ,lol

Therefor my serious comment is : break up with him and look for another guy online,whom you like best!!..lol lol

Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/19/2017 5:25 pm

    Quoting Baluga10:
    Mum to her daughter: "Baby open your mouth?
    Baby to her Mum : " Yes ,Mama".
    Mum to her daughter: " Baby,Telling lies?
    Baby to her Mum : " No.Mama"
    and the mother hugs the baby so tightly.

    Another version :

    Mum to her daughter : " Baby open your mouth?"
    Baby to her Mum : " Yes Mama"
    Mum to her daughter : " Baby telling lies?"
    Baby to her Mum : " Yes Mama"
    and the mother berates her baby..

    It is useful sometimes to tell lies ,but ,generally ,it is harmful.
    and, also, it is harmful sometimes to tell the truth but generally it is useful.

    Now your premise lies in .Boyfriends and girlfriends telling the truths to each other,therefore,they both love each other.in your case you contradict the conclusion ,lol,lol ,lol

    Therefor my serious comment is : break up with him and look for another guy online,whom you like best!!..lol lol
I have done that, as per the threads of comments above. I couldn't stand the lie of being his girlfriend when I don't have that feeling for him other than as a friend.
Look for another guy? Wish me luck.

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bingmo24
62 posts 

12/19/2017 10:13 pm

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If He was a not nice person & not really your type and I don't think we are a good matching.
but still now i really dont know why you told he was nice person but not your stile?
than what want from him & realy whats your stile?
& instead of how is me?
i can do that anything if thats your happy life except pay money
Humble people also not your stile? tell me tell me soon before i leave ha...

Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/19/2017 10:47 pm

he is a nice person but not my type. That's what I said. All I want is someone that I can have intelligent and funny conversation with. Someone who can make me laugh and at the same time make me feel loved and cared for.

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bingmo24
62 posts 

12/22/2017 7:25 pm

just follow me instead of that nice guy.
really i dont undestand whats real nice.if you follow me than you can get a make your laugh and at the same time make me feel loved and cared for. ok? maybe you dont need any doubt haha

Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/23/2017 6:59 am

    Quoting bingmo24:
    just follow me instead of that nice guy.
    really i dont undestand whats real nice.if you follow me than you can get a make your laugh and at the same time make me feel loved and cared for. ok? maybe you dont need any doubt haha
Sorry , but thanks anyway.

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bingmo24
62 posts 

12/26/2017 10:41 pm

just are you terminated in aus.job? why stay in manila?

bingmo24
62 posts 

12/26/2017 10:42 pm

just now are you terminated in aus.job?

Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/27/2017 1:58 am

    Quoting bingmo24:
    just now are you terminated in aus.job?
Yes.

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theta2011
1898 posts 

12/27/2017 5:20 am

There's no easy way to break somebody's heart. What's even more painful is to prolong the one sided relationship. Nike says - just do it..

Bizzysback
930 posts 

12/27/2017 10:40 pm

    Quoting theta2011:
    There's no easy way to break somebody's heart. What's even more painful is to prolong the one sided relationship. Nike says - just do it..
Done. Got a lot of courage from here.

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eb1209
28149 posts 

12/29/2017 4:02 pm

Somehow, I can relate...We have similar situation...But yours is probably more complicated because there is an assumption that there is a relationship going on...But, if I were you, please just tell him the truth...I know it will hurt, but what can I say? The TRUTH can hurt sometimes..

Just call me ELZ

flower_boy2014
13 posts 

1/4/2018 5:54 pm

    Quoting Bizzysback:
    he is a nice person but not my type. That's what I said. All I want is someone that I can have intelligent and funny conversation with. Someone who can make me laugh and at the same time make me feel loved and cared for.
If he is not your type, why do you continue to invest in time with him?

What qualities in him do you see enough to say that you can give up some of your ideals, if any?

For a man to make effort to please you with no prequalifications - that is something! In return, if you feel "any" for him, the question becomes - how much can you give of yourself and meet him halfway?

Bizzysback
930 posts 

1/4/2018 11:09 pm

    Quoting eb1209:
    Somehow, I can relate...We have similar situation...But yours is probably more complicated because there is an assumption that there is a relationship going on...But, if I were you, please just tell him the truth...I know it will hurt, but what can I say? The TRUTH can hurt sometimes..
Yep done that and now it's over. Thanks for dropping by and sharing your stories too.

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Bizzysback
930 posts 

1/4/2018 11:19 pm

    Quoting flower_boy2014:
    If he is not your type, why do you continue to invest in time with him?

    What qualities in him do you see enough to say that you can give up some of your ideals, if any?

    For a man to make effort to please you with no prequalifications - that is something! In return, if you feel "any" for him, the question becomes - how much can you give of yourself and meet him halfway?
I have stopped and no longer talk to him as of this date. I can always find some good qualities in a person but not close to my ideals. I don't feel any romantic love for him but I suspected he mistook my response as love for him.
Anyway thanks for dropping by and it's all over and I am relieved. I was finally able to break up with him.

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